Congrats on doing well with the new position. It doesn't surprise me. Often times people are a little hesitant or uncomfortable with a change, but then when they take the leap and put themselves in the new position they crush it. It most be nice to hear that positive feedback...not to mention the 4% and 6% raises! My advice is in another year or two leverage that new position / salary into yet another new position with an even higher salary - studies show people who jump around get more raises and promotions and result up with higher income in the end.
I've nothing to add on the dating world topic, as you're far ahead of me in the learning curve there, but...there are two topics I'd love an update in on (if you're willing to share):
1) ExH's affair with OW/newW's friend - anything surface there yet, and how is daughter feeling about it?
2) Child support review with your ExW - even with the raise, I bet you're still owed double what you're currently getting. Only a few more years of it with your daughter's age....hope you get what you deserve raising her a majority of the time.
1) nothing has come of his affair. My daughter has decided to pretend it never happened. She actually doubted what she saw. Maybe for her own preservation ? I told her what she saw was real. I just want her to be happy and comfortable with her dad. And I also warned her she can’t ignore reality, and one day, reality will reveal itself. I also remind her that her dad loves Her very much and she is probably the one person he has truly known love for.
Yeah, the child support. I make a decent amount more than him now. How much more would I make per month? I still want to find that out without him finding it out. What I want to do is weight the price of peace of that makes sense? $50 more a month isn’t worth it. He watches my dog because he loves him . He did save money for my D’s college. I did not. I paid to raise her. And She also knows I don’t have money for her college, and when she graduates, she knows she will have a place in my home rent free to save money and build her life . Because quite frankly, that would have been the biggest game changer for me. I was 18, on my own, never had this chance to save a always struggling. Paid for my own college. I was discarded at 18. I absolutely refuse to ever do that to my daughter .
And thank you. It’s been a fulfilling difficult past 3 weeks. But I’m loving it. I don’t know where I will be in the next few years, but this position has really given me the chance to grow. Today we had an all staff meeting where I had to present a difficult contentious topic and apparently ( before me) this topic went over poorly. But today it went over very successfully. Everything I do in my life I do fairly and factual. And from experience. Today, it was respected and couldn’t be Life is Anything but easy. But it’s good. And it’s good because I friggin made it good. I take all that credit .
One thing I will always shamelessly take pride in is everything I built against the odds and without the support. Statistically, I shouldn’t be this successful and I know this and I do not take it for granted
