The reason you are struggling is the power struggle between the emotional and intelligent parts of your brain.
At the moment, your emotional brain and thoughts are calling the shots, so intelligent brain isn’t getting a say and you’re spiraling out of control.
Don’t let your emotions control your thoughts/decisions. Acknowledge them, process them, but learn to identify that they are not going to give you good outcomes and they need to be replaced with measured, reasoned thoughts and behaviors.
“I can’t do this, it’s just too hard, I miss her so much.”
STOP SIGN IMAGERY
“I’m allowing emotion to control my thoughts.”
“I most probably will get through all of this and be okay.”
“I acknowledge I feel crap. But I still need to make smart decisions.”
“Perhaps because I’m emotional, I’ll redirect. I’m going to go for a run or gym session, have some good food, and then reconsider my problem with strength and the intelligent half of my brain.”
Emotions are fine. But don’t let them influence thoughts, behaviors and outcomes.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
