By nature I am a fixer. I want to fix everything. Maybe deep down she was a women I wanted to fix, if that makes sense.
Totally makes sense. Men are fixers. Yes it makes sense. But to fix her she has to believe she is broken. Even if she was broken, you can't fix her.
Originally Posted by Mach40
But, when it went south, I had no way to fix it. There is something deep in there, I know..
I would start with a feeling of loss of control.
Originally Posted by Mach40
When we got divorced, maybe I felt I failed in not fixing my own marriage..
Maybe but it takes two to fix a marriage.
Originally Posted by Mach40
The part about no feeling I deserve better. Interesting. I wonder how I would relate that to me as a person. Career, cars, house, foods, gifts.. hmmm, I wonder if I have a issue with myself.
Most here do because they have been beaten down battered and broken after bomb drop. It's up to you to rise from the ashes. You will eventually, it just takes time and you moving in a positive direction.
I don't want to see you here 5 years from now still pondering the whys.
