Action 2

[Ready2Change]

I’m open to input and ideas and feedback

Hi Rockon,

Have you finished reading DR? If so, have you read it more than once?

How do you talk to your kids about the sitch?

Answering questions is OK, especially with your kids being young adults. Try not letting the convo go on for too long.

My kids are 20-23...age appropriate answers to their questions. You can always error on giving answers for a younger person. My kids were 6-9 when I divorced There are books on the subject.

"It ran it's course" is a great answer for most questions from most people.
"That's between your mother and I"
"Marriage is hard work. Sometimes people ..." (can't resolve their differences) or

I would avoid the blame game. Making I statements is good. such as "I believe.." or "I want your mother to be happy"

The truth will set you free, just be careful on the wording.

Ok so let’s fast forward to her return. She has moved her stuff to her mom’s where she is staying. If she stops in unannounced, I plan to say I gotta go.

If she is having sex with another man, I would choose different words.

It is extremely disrespectful for her to come over unannounced. Command (not demand, there is a difference) respect.

She moved out (and has OM) and does not live there any longer. Natural consequences. If she wants to see D, then explain to daughter that it is better for her to go see her mother.