Well, I have noticed a trend here. When you separate, divorce etc, what people want you to do with yourself is effectively what you should have been doing during the marriage. Having a life ( same as GAL), with her/him is keeping it exciting.. Just an example. The anxiety/fear of not having that person is real, yet you are told go find another person to fill that void after you heal.. Interesting.. I get it. I am having a rough few days here, in AK. All I can think of is what ifs, should have, could haves.. And I keep envisioning her in the vision I had when we were young and dating, but now doing it all over with someone new. And on the flip side I want it to fail miserably, cause I havent fully let her go. It makes sense now. Letting go is the ultimate love for her, let her go, its not failing. I read this quote "But letting go is not giving up. You don't have to give up to let go. Letting go means that you become the picnic. The lighthouse. You are no longer moving TOWARDS them, but they know where you are and can move towards you if they ever decide to. The analogies of the picnic and the lighthouse are perfect metaphors for letting go (stop moving towards them!), but not giving up." I think this is for the DB envisioning her seeing what she has left, and will come back. Yep, I am a mess..
