So far, I’ve made myself open and available with my kids. Leaving the door open for them to ask questions and to express how they’re doing while being careful not to paint W in a bad light. I honoured her as their mother and Expressed that I want our marriage to recover and our relationship to work. I acknowledged to them that I don’t control her and I don’t know the future but that we are going to be OK no matter the outcome.
I was talking to my counsellor last week who suggested that I consider the language I use to describe our situation. Simply labelling the situation as a separation doesn’t capture the nuance of what is going on. There are things that I am going through and working out that I am not sharing with my kids. For example, the A. But I am sharing that I’m engaging in therapy and focusing on my recovery, our family, my friendships and faith.
