Ok so let’s fast forward to her return. She has moved her stuff to her mom’s where she is staying. If she stops in unannounced, I plan to say I gotta go. She very likely will come over to spend time with D as well. She has been texting me from her trip already. She wanted to find out about S’s treatment update (special mental health needs)
I did overhear her on a video call with D today in the other room. Sounded like they had a good conversation. I’m happy about that.
So if it’s status quo after she returns, I need to show I have moved on. I did not want to stay with the status quo as things are. I also don’t want to go back to how things were. I want to have an honest, loving, respectful, faithful, exciting marriage. That feels like a far away off.
If she says I’m back from my trip and I wanna work on our marriage now, then I will say “oh really. What do you mean by that?”
If she says, “I’ve made a terrible mistake. I’m very sorry.I really love you and I want to reconcile with you,” I will say, “thank you. I need to consider my options.”
