I've said for years now that there is a major difference between "standing" and merely "waiting" for a situation to work out.....
There was a poster here a while back named Sleeper ? I think that was his name. He merely hid from himself and waited for his wife to wake up. Which ultimately did not happen, and eventually, after 6 or 7 years, he realized that he had wasted those years of his life, years that he could never recover, because he allowed his situation to dictate who he was.
I see the same with you, however much you are seeing it now, and trying to work through it.
The one thing I would recommend is that you stop allowing your Ex to dictate your emotions.
And stop holding her accountable for how YOU feel right now...
If you were to step back and re-read this thread, you are still in the mindset of "feeling" married to her...
And with that, you are stuck in "us" mode, and not in "you" mode....
You have to find out what "you" mode looks like.
Nothing is written that things could possibly be different down the road, however, today is not that day.
A WAS will seldom return to a situation that they left...
How is your situation different than it once was ??
Hopefully you realize, and work through this before you wake up down the road, and regret the wasted years....
