Thank you both for the input. I agree about being more upfront about things and taking charge of situations. As far as the bedroom, W got a bed yesterday and put it downstairs. I had expressed previously that I would not be leaving the bedroom and that the sleeping arrangement was not working. So she found a cheap bed somewhere and moved down there last night. I was trying to figure out what to do and it turns out I just needed another 12 hours of patience and the problem was resolved.
We also briefly discussed setting a plan for boundaries/schedules/time with the kids the other day. This will be a good opportunity for me to take the lead on those actions.
