I have a theory, that things always work out for me. Maybe her not coming back is what was needed.
I fought like mad against the ending of my 24 year marriage. But now I wouldn’t go back and change it.
I learned to play the drums. I formed an amateur pop punk band and played with them for over five years. I learned to play glockenspiel and vibraphone. I toured several times with my best friend who is a professional singer songwriter and have met many famous musicians through her. I played on her last album.
I used to travel with my ex to fancy resorts while he gave medical lectures. Now I am the one giving medical lectures in my field and staying in fancy resorts.
Every man I have dated since my divorce has valued me more than my ex. While many of those relationships didn’t work out for one reason or another, they have all remained my good friends. I’ve had better sex with handsomer men since my divorce than at any point in my life, even better than my single twenties.
My relationships with my three adult kids are close and they tell me they love me all the time.
My post-divorce home is comfortable and decorated to my taste.
I have close, supportive friendships.
This wasn’t the path I chose, but once I learned to embrace the change, it has been a path I have been happy to be on.
