Boundary's after big D

[LH19]

Very true LH.. What causes us to think someone should be something they are not? If we both worked to appreciate who each other is, life would be better. You have seen those couples, especially older ones.

Google stages of marriage. "disillusionment and distraction" is they key stage where most marriages end. If you can get through that stage most will morph into acceptance.

For my kids sake, I will always paint an awesome picture of their Mother, and now Grandma. No speaking ill of her.

Very mature attitude Mach.

I am writing pros/cons of what I can remember. 32 years total time knowing her. I have allot of reason to envision her as something, and yet, it turned out different. Definitely not all her fault, as we failed as a couple.

This "fooling yourself" phenomenon is a lot of what goes on -- you fall in love with who you want the person to be versus who they really are. Over time, your veneer gets stripped away, you see them for who they really are and it’s no longer acceptable.

I know my story is very one sided, and I hope most people see there is more to it.

I have only seen a couple cases here where the LBS blames everything on the WS.

One thing that is very difficult after divorce, besides all the unanswered questions as to why it happened never seem to go away, is a path to walk..

It is tough especially when you know that two people working together on something as important as major and family is very accomplishable.

I waited and waited for ex to come back.. I have a theory, that things always work out for me.

Her not coming back may be the best thing that ever happened to you. Too early to tell. Plus she still may comeback.

Is there a actual journey written showing a person doing this?

Lot's of people write their journey on here. Some have great stories and adventures some are still stuck in the same place several years later. Which person do you want to be?