Very true LH.. What causes us to think someone should be something they are not? If we both worked to appreciate who each other is, life would be better. You have seen those couples, especially older ones. For my kids sake, I will always paint an awesome picture of their Mother, and now Grandma. No speaking ill of her. I am writing pros/cons of what I can remember. 32 years total time knowing her. I have allot of reason to envision her as something, and yet, it turned out different. Definitely not all her fault, as we failed as a couple.