Oh boy you guys sound like an old married couple. Like I said somehow you accumulated 20 years of resentment in 3 years. My guess is that every time you robotically validate her you she wants to punch you in the face.
So Wolf it is obvious you want a "traditional" woman and she is not one. Also, it looks like you never dealt appropriately with your NGS. I think you are going to dig down and decide what you are willing to live with moving forward. After you figure it out an direct honest conversation needs to be had on what your expectations are moving forward. From that you can negotiate terms you can both live with or you terminate the relationship moving forward.
I have to be honest your life sounds terrible that you are doing the majority of the final supporting and house work and are getting no sex and can't even get the cookies you enjoy.
