I have been reading a wealth of older forum threads here. Many are the guidelines, quotes, Sandis stuff etc.. I can say I was the main problem within our marriage, if I have already stated that. And after seeing over and over the same recommendations of what to do to leave a person in a relationship when it has got to a point of Not fixing, that my ex followed almost all of it. Scary, as she may have been on this site getting advice, as it much of it, GAL, detachment, 180, etc etc she did. As best she could.. Thats just my thoughts. So she had a few years head start, and it seems to have worked for her. I envy her in that drive she had. Not a sympathy speak here, just an observation. Cant really go into more detail than what I see via the threads here. Its easier when you know there is not going to be a reconcile, and you dont want one. Sometimes we get confused and are in love with a vision of what she/he was..But when you analyze and analyze, and try to remember bad and good, its amazing what you can remember.. I am moving on, its liberating, like turning your cell phone off for a few days while camping..
