Read a transcript of a Ted Talk today about online dating. The woman spoke about setting three criteria for messages she would respond too: whole sentences in decent English, referenced something she said in her profile (so you know it’s not a blanket cut and paste job), and nothing sexual on the first message. Seems like a pretty low bar but only 14% of the 210 inbound messages she received met these criteria. I’d say that’s on par with my past experience too. So guys, check your outgoing messages for grammar and spelling, reference something that shows you read her profile, and don’t make overtly sexual comments in your first message. That will put you in the top 14% right away!
For the number of men complaining about how difficult it is to get an attractive date, it's shockingly easy if you focus on the right things. Agree 100%. Hopefully, there's a TED talk out there for the ladies trying OLD, too!
Spa Guy sounds more like a fearful avoidant than a distant avoidant, in that he keeps an emotional distance, but wants to be in love. As a medical pro and someone who cares about him, it must be frustrating you can't help him overcome that. He even has a lady already somewhat interested in him who Stands By Her Man ala Tammy Wynette.
