It’s amazing the power of logic goes out the window in these situations. You have a bunch of guys who have studied relationships and attraction for several years saying you need to let her be and come to you and you have an older woman who likes to be pursued and you are leaning towards her advice. This is all because your brain is telling you to pursue.
In my last post, I said I was planning on going NC. Trust me, I've been here before and was too foolish to follow advise because 'I know my W better than you', I was too afraid to lose her, she would never do that to me, etc. However, I think you could argue that this situation is somewhat opposite- I've become the WAS who's coming back to LBS to say I want back in the R, but she doesn't believe my change. In that case, I have a feeling that the advise here would be that I have to prove I'm serious, willing to do whatever it takes, etc. I was essentially NC before I reached out to her with my change of heart weeks ago only to find out she had been dating.
Again, I'm planning on NC (at least for now), but just trying to explain how I understand both approaches. And it's not lost on me that it's most likely over and I'll need to move on.
