It’s amazing the power of logic goes out the window in these situations. You have a bunch of guys who have studied relationships and attraction for several years saying you need to let her be and come to you and you have an older woman who likes to be pursued and you are leaning towards her advice. This is all because your brain is telling you to pursue.
This is very basic attraction stuff. If she wants to be in your life she will make it easy for you.
When do decide to reach out again come here first and get advice on the LAST text you will ever send without a response.