“ LH is asking very pertinent questions which are actually at the crux of your pain.
I think you not only need to ask these questions, but you need to explore them with a counsellor.
For me, my fears were: a) what would happen to my children, how their short and long term futures would be effected b) would I be okay on my own c) fear of the unknown
These are the fears that keep you trapped. Your current trap is that your brain knows logically that the best way forward is to walk away happily from her - but your emotions and uncertainty and fears like a) b) c) above can control your brain and you end up making emotive, not intelligent decisions”
I will keep exploring digging and reflecting and discuss with C
