Talked with 3 good friends yesterday. They were all in agreement that I should go all out.
What does "all out" mean? Your friends want the best for you, but arne't giving the realistic advice.
Originally Posted by Tarheel
Not sure what my next move is.
Just one man's advice, but...you already made your move. You told her you changed your mind about having a child with her and were willing to sell your house and move to her...and she said "no". You've been the one pursuing with texts for a few months now, only to rarely hear back if at all. If you continue texting & calling it's going to come off as needy and weak...not attractive. And if you reserve the vasectomy and sell your house on a whim...be wary of a bad ending.
You two have plenty of history. She knows where to find you if she wants you back. Give her some space and a chance to miss you and display strong behavior.
Wish you the best of luck, just not convinced the "all out" Hollywood RomCom ending is going to work.
kml,
Originally Posted by kml
Lol - I hate those Hallmark movies but love Korean romcom dramas. Easily some of the most romantic scenes ever - if I met a guy who did half the romantic things in those shows I would be putty in their hands.
You'd be putty in the man's hands IF you were super attracted and your heart/mind was open to him. Otherwise it'd come off as needy and annoyed and you'd be turned off. They say the difference between romantic and stalker behavior from the man is the woman's level of attraction.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
