Boundary's after big D

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Mach40,

Too expedite my issue, I am going to keep writing a journal of things that were not positive for a relationship.

It's interesting to look back the relationship more objectively after time passes and realize things weren't always as rosey as they seemed after BD.

I am allot of the cause too.

What were your failings and what are your areas for improvement in your next relationship?

The relationship got better ( in an amicable way, stay with him till children are able to move on etc) over the years, but, as she said, she never was able to get over the first few years. Allot of angst.

I don't know your detailed history, but it seems like that's a tough way for her to look at things. No one has it easy their entire marriage, and young kids are typically a stressor / pressure for the relationship. You two have a much longer history than a few years.

So, since this is not going to go well, reconcile etc, I need to do everything I can mentally to forget it the good and focus on the bad to alleviate the pain..

Maybe for now it'll help you move forward, but hopefully over the long run you'll be able to see the balance of negative and positive and appreciate the relationship for what it was. Like you said...kids and grandkids are a major plus.

Went to a rodeo tonight. Lots of fun

That's awesome! Glad to see you get out. How long did you stay on the Bucking Bronco??? LOL