I have seen families that have become friends after some time. But, they all had someone with them when they did return. Like a security blanket.. Too expedite my issue, I am going to keep writing a journal of things that were not positive for a relationship. Cause and effect. I am allot of the cause too. My oldest was a catalyst for many hard years in the beginning of our relationship. Rough times, and we fed on each other. I am more the aggressor, fixer. She was/is more hide, and not talk about how to fix things, like bottling up emotions. The relationship got better ( in an amicable way, stay with him till children are able to move on etc) over the years, but, as she said, she never was able to get over the first few years. Allot of angst. So, since this is not going to go well, reconcile etc, I need to do everything I can mentally to forget it the good and focus on the bad to alleviate the pain..
