Wolfman moving forward 4

[Wolfman]

A lot of great comments and suggestions, thank you. I will try to answer some of the questions and/or address some of the comments. Some of you talked about the therapist issue. What I would like is some guidance from a therapist. For example try x,y, and z and see how that works or how that would make me feel. There was no guidance to the ones I went to, just listening and asking more questions. I am the type when I am struggling or having a hard time with something I want guidance or direction. In the last 4 years, between my divorce and and new relationship I am lost and need guidance. I like to hear other peoples opinions or suggestions. I realize I am making mistakes and have things to improve, I just didn't know how to go about it. This forum has given me so much more advice and suggestions. It gets me to see these things from a different perspective. The therapist that my gf and I are seeing is great. She tells what is going on, why we behave a certain way according to her observations and offers suggestions. One suggestion she recommended we have implemented and is starting to help us. Thats what I need and what we need in our relationship at this time. She gives us things we can try and "homework".
IN therapy she did say how much I help her with everything lately and how that is helping her feel loved. We went out on a date night 2 nights ago and it was great. GF was feeling stressed (she is getting a new degree and taking classes online) feeling the crunch between school work, house work and the baby. She was hesitant about doing the date night because she has so much school work to do. Therapist told her this is something she needs to do, how breaks from a busy life and removing your self is good for a person's mental health. She also said whether we go on our date or not, the school work will still be there, so why not go and give yourself a break and it also helps us connect. That really eased her anxiety and stress of the school work and we went. Had a great time.

I have been going nonstop trying to help her. I have been cleaning non stop. I say this because, when I get home from work, the home is a disaster. Stuff everywhere, sink is full, baby dishes not cleaned, dishwasher still full, food all over the counters. So, as soon as i get home I empty the dishwasher, load the dirty dishes, clean the baby dishes, put things away, clean up the food on the counter, then take the baby so she has time to do her work. I will feed the baby dinner later on. Cook dinner or buy dinner and clean up afterward. Yet she told me yesterday, she needs more help. i asked her how else can I help, she said she just needs more time to do her school work. I aksed how can I give you more time? She replied she just needs more time. My opinion she needs to figure out how to manage with the baby. I am literally doiong everything in my power to help her. Yet she tells me she needs more help. She told the therapist on wednesday I help her so much, but then tells me I need to give her more time. This past weekend I took the baby out for 3 hours, this way she had peace and quiet. Right now I feel like its not enough. Any suggestions how to approach this?

Just giving you all a time line of yesterday. woke up at 4:30am and went to the gym, after gym went to to work. After work got home at 3pm. Started cooking for dinner (bbq), finished cooking at 3:45. Took baby to play so she would have time to do school work. Was with baby till 5:15 had to go back to work. I did not even eat dinner. Was at work till 8:45 got home at 9:30. Warmed up food ate dinner and then went to bed at 10:30. Again, I was up at 4:30 am again this morning. I get a text this morning from gf while I was at work, that she was disappointed that she came downstairs to mess, that I could have put the clean dishes away this morning. I am not a machine, I don't know how much more. The mornings are a time crunch, going to the gym and getting ready for work in the morning.
I understand she feels overwhelmed and stressed, I am trying the best I can I just feel like it is not enough for her. Thanks everyone