Tarheel, good luck man. I have no advice for you since I do not believe you are being true to yourself. LH used to have a quote about not chasing people. Live the life you want and the people worthy of you will come and stay I your life. My fear is that you are compromising what you want, and if you were to win her back and start a family in a few years you'd be miserable because you settled for something you didn't want.
So i know you just wanted advice on getting her back. I'll let the experts in that area take over. But I think you already know the answers there.
Peace to you! I truly hope you find the happiness you seek.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018