Court date: I'm in the US, and agreed - thats what it seems like.
My mistake - it's AnnKay who was pregnant and living in Australia.
Originally Posted by Newborn
Travel: Yeah, I think it was mostly his mom, but I think in some ways he liked to have his family time. He and I were always really careful to have our own lives as well outside the relationship, but he did seem to sometimes prioritize others.
Having your own lives with personal hobbies and interests is good for a relationship, but 6 years of you being excluded from family vacations is a much different story.
Originally Posted by Newborn
Tbh BL42 I did call him back and apologize about the comment about vacations bc truly the conversaiton wasn't supposed to be about me. We had a 40 min chat about lots of stuff, including prior travel together, and the baby, and his cousin's wedding he had invited me to but I can't go to.
Only you know for sure, but it sounds to me like you might have been making an excuse to reach out and talk / stay close. If you need to discuss baby logistics and finances, that's one thing, but did the reminiscing about prior travel help your detachment? And why would he invite you to his cousin's wedding while you're divorcing? Seems odd.
Hey there! Sorry for the delay. Past few weeks have been nuts.
I dunno, in the past I think I would have tried to reach out just to talk to him, but it honestly doesn't feel that way anymore. In regards to why he invited me to his cousin's wedding, his cousins are kind of... Unique individuals and this wedding was a long time in the making. He said I deserve to go or something. I couldn't anyway because my best friend got married and it was really wonderful being with him and other people who have known me my whole life.
About 2 weeks ago my son had a little skin lesion that looked like a zit. I was keeping close eye on it, applying topical antibiotics and trying to do warm compresses, but it kept getting bigger and appeared to be not super painful and he had no fevers and was still eating well. I made a doctor's appointment after it wouldn't go away. However, the day after it seemed to drain, and the rash spread to his eye and it basically looked like an abscess. I called the x to let him know that I was going to the emergency department and he was welcome to join, but he told me he had therapy session in the morning and work meetings in the afternoon. I canceled my whole day of patients, some of whom have been waiting months to see me, and in response to his nonsense I just said "You know what, never mind, just have a normal day then"and hung up to get my son ready.
The ex called back a little later saying that now he was more awake and thought it would probably be good if he went. He offered to bring a coffee and I said yes, thank you.
It was kind of mind-blowing to hear him prattle on about work meetings and therapy sessions when I said I had to bring her son to the emergency department at 6:00 in the morning. But it is a little validating, when he does stuff like this it reminds me why I would get frustrated with him during the marriage, and remind me again this wasn't completely all my fault. It's still hard to break through that cycle you know?
