Originally Posted by Tarheel
I ended up breaking things off as I just couldn't imagine 'starting over' with babies. She took it harder than me- I think because I had been processing the breakup for a while. We continued to talk through the end of June, then communication stopped....I want to be with her and I want to start a family with her.....I'm just looking for advice on how to 'win' her back....Thoughts??

My first serious talk with my lady was regarding kids together. She wanted, I did not. It was not my choice to stay together, it was hers. To 'win' her back, every time she brings it up, you apologize and admit you were wrong for ending it and hurting her.

All is fair in love and war. Neither of you are married. No one is cheating on each other. Ask her out to dinner. Do all the preplanning, just like a first date. "Are you free on Oct 15th around 7PM? I would love to have dinner with you at SoandSo restaurant."

Obviously there is past attraction. Right now you may want to put more focus on your seduction techniques (indirect attraction).

Keep dating other woman (at least 2 others) during this process.


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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