Its the gut feeling. Just painful. My Ex is a person that will bend over backwards to make her kids safe, happy etc etc. She is asking because it is easy for her to do, ask me to go to each event. I know if the tables were turned, and they were my kids, she wouldnt go because it would make her feel ill.. Its the reality. Nobody has the same feelings I do in all of this. Ex, Kids. They dont feel what I am feeling. If the new guy is THE GUY, then this will be a reoccurring issue. Kids are older, but grands will be around him quite a bit.. I understand my ex is moving on, never recovered over our issues ( we went to several conselors, separate and together, all failures). So, she did everything to become independent, education, career ( top 10% realtors in our area), financially and such and is moving on. And she no longer needs me anymore, except for the kids sake. She now doesnt have to take care of her kids, and she can just be herself and do things for herself. Envious I tell ya. But this just burns my britches. The kids will see me in a different light, when I dont bend to the B Days and other holidays.. Dang
