Wolfman moving forward 4

[Wolfman]

I don’t mean to sound like negative Nancy here but it is alarming to me that y’all have a child together, cohabitate, and yet you’ve never had a conversation about expectations. That should’ve occurred on the front end to avoid a lot of what you are dealing with now. You describe a 1950s housewife in your expectations of both your role and hers. You want to be the big strong man and you want her to be the subservient little woman. That’s all well and good IF she’s on the same page. If not, it can create a huge chasm between you. I suggest y’all have that conversation ASAP so that you can start to move forward.

You say you don’t want to go to therapy anymore and that you want to just come here. With all due respect to all of the amazing posters and the stellar advice they give, none of us are licensed counselors and therapists (with a few exceptions). If you choose not to go to therapy, that’s certainly your choice, but I don’t think just relying on an anonymous site where we don’t know the actual full story is the way to go either. Just my opinion……

Definitely a conversation we need to have. I believe in the traditional roles. Obviously she has to be on the same page. Look I went to a couple of therapists and I felt they were not good. Never had advice, they just listened and asked me questions like, how do I feel about that, what do i think? I want some answers, i realize they won't have the answers to everything, but give some advice and direction. I could try other therapists but I really don't. i understand some of you might be therapists, but some of you have given me so much better advice. Maybe down the road I will change my mind, but right now it's not for me. My gf and I go to therapy once a week with her. She seems really good so far, picking up on problems and offering suggestions and advice. My gf and I right now both seem to like her and feel like she can help us.