Wolfman moving forward 4

[Wolfman]

WOW ok then. I will answer the questions some of you asked.

I am still curious to the question I posed about her not being from the US. Does she have family here ?

Did I ever say she was born outside the US? My gf was born here. Always lived here. I believe her dad was born here too, I think her mom was born in her country. Her parents live here and so do her siblings (siblings live in a different state).

Certain days in our divorce decree are not set in stone. These are times that we negotiate. This was one of those days. Also, certain things in our divorce decree overlap. So, we have to negotiate.

So what was so special about this day that it is not set in stone? So if this is a day you negotiated than why didn't you just say " I negotiated 8:00 pm so that is when I will drop him off.

Does this make sense?

It makes zero sense. You two are like children so it makes more sense to go back into court and get a more strict agreement with zero room for negotiation or misinterpidation.

This particular day, our negotiated time overlapped. This was my vacation week which ended on Friday. We exchange my s at 8pm. But weekends say they start at 3pm. This is the first time this overlap ever happened. Our divorce does to say if this happens which one takes precedence. That's where the problem was there. You mentioned that we are children. Look, in June exw went to a retirement party and was not able to pick up my s at the designated time. Side note, In writing in our divorce it is clearly states, "No one other than the parents should be at pick up and NO other person is to pick up or drop off the kids" Exw emailed me that her father was going to pick up my s. I could have said no, made her leave the party and come and pick up my s. I allowed. When I received that email, I said ok. When its convenient for her she doesn't abide by it, but like for the example I explained I couldn't get there at that time, she filed a police report.

Mach you want me to answer the question, why do I want to be right? The answer to this question is a deep answer. The short answer, never having a voice growing up. Had to do what my mom said and that was it. Never wanted to hear me. I know I was a kid. It just hurt not to be heard or have no voice. Look, before I get ambushed on this, I know I am older now. Something I should have worked on long ago. But I didn't. I will now, especially since so many of you pointing it out, I will work on this. Honestly i will look to all of you for help. I am not going to a therapist for it. I am tired of going to them and hearing, why do you think that, how does that make you feel? I am going to you for you to tell me. At least here you all tell me straight. Better therapy here than any therapist I have gone to.