Wolfman moving forward 4

[Wolfman]

So you were dating before your W even moved out. I guess this makes more sense now.

So in the early stages of a relationship and especially after having a child a woman will typically bends over backwards to make her husband/BF happy so he stays in the relationship. This is all part of the Evolutionary Psychology thing I like to talk about on this board. She wants a man around to help with, protect and provide for her and the baby. After years and years of this and the man doesn't reciprocate the resentment starts to build and you get the bomb drop after many years of her needs not being met. The fact that this has happened so quickly leads me to believe either A. you are not being honest with us or B. your girlfriend is not relationship/marriage material or something is not right with her like for an example she is not attracted to you.

What i Haven't been talking about is the drama with my ex. At least not all of it. That drama has put a lot of stress on our relationship. Orders of protection, sheriff showing up to my house 2 times. going to court because of false allegations, spending thousands of dollars to defend myself, making money tight for us for a while. Having the ex's parents follow us and even start one time with my gf and one of my son's basketball games. So unfortunately, LH you are right, There has been a lot of things I have not shared as far as my ex is concerned. There is just endless drama with my ex, which affects my gf. I am going to say it and be honest, it's not fair for her to have to deal with all this drama. My gf, is just so done with all this drama. My gf is so nervous and anxious, that many times before we go to my son's games she will drink a little to help ease her anxiety. I know that is not a healthy way to deal with it, but thats what she does. Maybe that is why it does not make sense for her to get here so quickly. Maybe this will help make a little more sense why my gf acts the way she does and feels the way she does. She has literally asked if we could move out of state to get away from her.
I had problems with my own family. Very long story short. My mom is handicapped and she wanted to live with me. So, we were going to buy a home together, when my brothers found out, they lied to my mom because they were only worried what would happen to the home when she died, that they wouldn't get any of her money. 2 weeks before we were about to close on the home with my mom and move in, my brother stopped my mom from her from using her money to buy the home and the deal fell through. We were almost sued. It was a mess.
This is a lot for one person to deal with and it has "nothing" to do with with her family.
Also, my gf immaturity comes out as far as wanting my attention. She complains to me about having to run all the time for my son. But Let me be clear about something. My son and her have been getting along, their relationship is getting so good. It is so great to see how they are with each other. They talk all the time and she is very involved with my son now. My son loves the baby, they play all the time and have so much fun together. So there are some bright spots here.

Mach I am here to change myself and fix this situation. I have been through a lot and trying the best I can. I have had a lot happen in the last 2 years.