I’ll never forget sometimes after a long shift as an ICU nurse, I would just want a shoulder rub. My ex didn’t want to unless sex was in the mix. And if I just let him rub my shoulders and not do something for him in return he would get all pissy.
As everyone says. Love is not transactional. You figured out for a week that you need to speak to her in her love language and you finally do and you expect an immediate response to get what you want from it.
Give it a nice long period of time where you speak to her in her love language without expectation of her giving to you in your love language. See what happens. Let her come to you. Soon she won’t even want to receive from you if that expectation that she needs to return all the time is there.
And I have to ask. You mention she is not from this country. Is her family here? Does she have anyone here? Aside from you, is she alone in this country with this baby?
