No one is saying that your wanting things is bad or that asking for what you want is bad. I think where the breakdown might be is in how you deliver the message. I have said this to you before and it bears repeating: stop keeping score and stop fighting to be right all the time. You say you have done these things that speak to her LL and she seems pleased but then when you want something she shuts you down. Timing and delivery, my man. You can’t keep a tally of what things you are doing for her, expecting her to reciprocate immediately. Keep doing things for her without expectation of anything in return. I get you want her to fill your love tank in a way that speaks your LL but she may be so far down at the moment that she just can’t get there. Just stop keeping score like I did a,b,c so I should get 1,2,3 because even if you don’t intend for that to come across that way to her, that is exactly how she is perceiving it.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
