I agree with you that H’s trip is unlikely to be to end things with OW. However, his purpose and outcome is still unknown; time will tell.
The decisions and choices a MLCer makes can be so aggravating. Your H’s recent behaviour, his apparent inability and/or unwillingness to extract himself from such a dead end R; even he knows it is a terrible R; shows just how terrible and consuming a crisis is.
Yes, the AP is usually the control over the emotionally broken individual. Breaking up, leaving, extracting themselves from the situation is very difficult. The MLCer is addicted, confused, and enthralled by a false fantasy; and they will expend incredible energies to maintain that fantasy, even in the face of obvious counter feedback.
Small peeks out of the tunnel, touch and goes, mini awakenings sporadically occur showing the crisis individual glimpses of reality and damage done. Then back into the tunnel to run some more. Slowly they get stronger and emotionally more stable, and can withstand these peeks more and more.
The horribleness of a crisis. These lost souls get mired in the darkness and struggle to find their light and happiness.
Originally Posted by Adios
All he had to do was stay away.
If only their solution was that easy.
The addiction, their torment, their demons - it’s not staying away, it’s making peace with them. And that road is not one most folks willingly head towards.
I empathize with opening a new chapter in your book of life. Be better not bitter, and forgive often as your write upon those pristine pages.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
