W was over here once ( I looked good, was dressed sharp and had quiet confident masculine energy going) recently. I noticed her subconsciously look me up and down not say a word but she moaned and I did not comment.
Originally Posted by Mach1
Make no mistake...
You doing that is going to stir up some anger in her...
She's gonna wonder why it had to come to this for you to be different....
Create a little mystery (not in a Scooby-Doo kinda way either).
Don't be so available when you know she is going to be around.
If you are like that and she shows up, suddenly have an appointment that you have to attend.
Let her wonder what you are doing....
Let her question her choices and decisions about you.
Her anger is going to be with herself more than it is with you.
Yet, you will feel the wrath at times.
All that anger HAS to come out at some point before things can change...
Anger is good though. Just make sure that you use your anger as a shield instead of a sword....
The trick is.....
That you are doing that because it's who you want to be. NOT because you want to solely affect her.
A WAS can smell fake like a drug dog can sniff out a Cheech and Chong movie set...
Understand ?
Changes are for YOU and you alone....
And they have to be consistent. IF you change for her, then there is no consistency in them...
This isn't a game, yet it will play like one....
You can't lead when you are constantly looking over your shoulder to see who is following....
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
