Wolfman moving forward 3

[Wolfman]

Thank you all for your help. I am taking a lot of what everyone said into consideration.
First, The Love Language. A long time ago we took a Love Language questionaire, I went back to it. We did it about a year and a half ago. Not surprisingly, touch was last on her list. Acts of service was 1 and quality time was 2. With that in mind, I have been really trying to help her around the house and clean and take care of the baby without her asking. She has said I am a big help. I just want to say to all of you its really hard. I want physical touch so much, that is my love language. I understand I do these acts of service not because I am looking for something in return but to fill her love tank. At the same time I feel like my love tank is depleting.

The thing is about the 5LL....

There are two sides to it.

I always recommend reading it twice to anyone that hasn't before, and to new posters.

We tend to read it to understand what WE need as our language. And the first read after the bomb is usually interpreted as a "how I F'ed this up manual"...

The second read of it, I always want the poster to really look at the way that we show love to our partners....

You may feel love by physical touch, yet may show love by acts of service....

Read it again Wolf....

See how you show it....

She may very well show you love by WOA, so discounting the way that she shows love, is essentially you rejecting her love....

Make sense ?

It does make sense. The only part and don't laugh, what does "WOA" stand for? I'm hoping with this change in what I am doing for her and therapy together will help a lot. Still a long road ahead.

The other thing I really believe she has post partum depression. We were in the mall yesterday and she just started crying. Saying how she feels so anxious and so depressed. I even said to her, I know there has been a lot that has gone on, I know that things have been tough. I told her I was there for her and help her anyway possible. That she is strong and we will get through this together. I also mentioned that she might have post partum and we should get her checked out. She was on board. Anyone ever deal with post partum, either for themselves or a family member?