YOU burn every ounce of fuel that you have inside of you....every day, then you recharge and begin anew tomorrow...
Quitting now allows you to be a victim of her behavior. And that doesn't sound like you....
She carried this marriage on her back for how long ??
And you want to give up after a few months ?
Puss
: )
I get what you're saying but I'm supposed to green-light EAs and W being emotionally distant because those interactions are being directed toward some other douche?
Originally Posted by Mach1
Who gives a flying fcku what she's doing...
What are YOU doing ??
You make your way through this with your GAL....
You also get through this by spending an enormous amount of time inside of your own head...
You own your crap, you work through the 'sting' moments, you invest in things that complete you.
You don't let her actions define who you want to be....
You act "as if" everything is going to work out the way you hope that it will.
I always knew without a doubt, that my situation would work out the way that I wanted it to. Right up until I decided later that it wouldn't. And THAT was still my decision....
What goals do you have for you. Not the marriage......YOU ???
What are you doing differently than you have in the past ??
Because 'standing' doesn't mean standing still, and with that mindset, you are simply 'waiting'...
I'm being who I want to be...but that guy might want to be with someone else if all I'm going to get is crumbs. I'm doing tons differently. I'm living my best life and starting to embrace it even more with each passing day. At 43 I've set a slew of personal bests in the gym. I would like it to work out with W, but I'm not a martyr.
Originally Posted by Mach1
DO NOT let her off the hook for this...
Ok, this one threw me a little....don't let her off the hook for her EA and texting or whatever she has going on?
Originally Posted by Mach1
Same thing we discussed a while back....
You are either in, or you are out.
I would hate for you to be sitting on your porch down the road, wondering "if only".....
What do you recommend? If I stay in, what does that entail?
