Have many on these forums ever felt like pulling the plug on their own situation? I dunno, I'm 99 percent sure W is grappling with a MLC (and supposedly you can't rush those) but sometimes I feel like I'm wasting away the part of my life that misses female companionship. To be sure, W and I still live together, still talk every day (though not what I would necessarily call substantially), still sleep together. But we haven't done anything that could be called a date in ages. Not that I'm bringing that subject up. Am I supposed to wait around forever?
This isn't tit for tat here..
YOU burn every ounce of fuel that you have inside of you....every day, then you recharge and begin anew tomorrow...
Quitting now allows you to be a victim of her behavior. And that doesn't sound like you....
She carried this marriage on her back for how long ??
And you want to give up after a few months ?
Puss
: )
Originally Posted by Doug54
She also inhales her phone every night from like 9-11 under the guise of "schoolwork." Yeah there's some computer work in that category that's legitimate, but there's also ample time and opportunity to be texting a dude. I stopped outwardly caring a while back, but again the amount of potential cake-eating without sunlight at the end of the tunnel gives me pause.
Who gives a flying fcku what she's doing...
What are YOU doing ??
You make your way through this with your GAL....
You also get through this by spending an enormous amount of time inside of your own head...
You own your crap, you work through the 'sting' moments, you invest in things that complete you.
You don't let her actions define who you want to be....
You act "as if" everything is going to work out the way you hope that it will.
I always knew without a doubt, that my situation would work out the way that I wanted it to. Right up until I decided later that it wouldn't. And THAT was still my decision....
What goals do you have for you. Not the marriage......YOU ???
What are you doing differently than you have in the past ??
Because 'standing' doesn't mean standing still, and with that mindset, you are simply 'waiting'...
Originally Posted by Doug54
It's not that I haven't been trying to keep up with GAL, just sort of questioning how long one trudges on. To be clear, I haven't brought up any relationship discussions or fallen off the train of DB techniques. Things aren't bad in the house aside from being a little "boring" if you don't count the whims of three rambunctious boys. LH, maybe I should get myself into an intoxicating EA like you had to maybe match whatever W had or has going on.
DO NOT let her off the hook for this...
Same thing we discussed a while back....
You are either in, or you are out.
You said then, that you were in, so I am going to treat you like you are in...
What does it mean to you to be above reproach ???
I would hate for you to be sitting on your porch down the road, wondering "if only".....
