Boundary's after big D

[BL42]

Mach40,

The dinner was set up by her to celebrate my B Day with the girls, and grands, and former FIL.

It sounds "nice" of her to think of your birthday and plan something with your daughters and grandkids, but if that sort of event with ExW and ExFIL isn't serving you well it's also ok to set a boundary and let her know. I remember you previously having mixed feelings about shared Holidays going forward...especially if/when ExW starts dating someone. Just know it's alright to say that doesn't work for you moving forward.

Time spent with my youngest was great. She too me to a TAPAS bar downtown. Ate some good finger foods, and had a couple drinks..
Oldest daughter brought me a B Day gift one of the grands selected for me. Lava lamp and miniature pinata'. They just left a few minutes ago..

Awesome! Glad you had fun with your daughters and grandkids :-)