Well, I thought the divorce was supposed to happen Monday, but apparent stbx didn't tell me the court date got moved.
Don't the courts notify you and/or your L directly? Why are you relying on stbx for something like that?
Yeah it was weird! I emailed my L to ask what I should do/wear/when I should show up and he said he/stbx's lawyer were talking behind the scenes and the date got moved, but on the plus side he said there was a chance we didn't have to go to court at all? He cc'd me on the email thread but honestly I struggle to make heads/tails of it.
Originally Posted by Newborn
I had taken the day off anyway so went snorkelling where the ocean was the most beautiful I've seen possibly ever - completely clear, gorgeous out. I went alone so didn't venture too far out but the water was fantastic.
Awesome! Perfect GAL. I'm a scuba diver and snorkel too. Great activity.
Bucket list is to scuba a shipwreck!! That's so cool you scuba! I've gone twice and it was fantastic.
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I went out again with a couple friends today
Great! Keep it up.
Thank you!
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and had stbx babysit. He sees the baby maybe once per week or two for a couple hours.
His loss. Always amazes me when people don't want to be engage with their children.
Right?? so stupid!
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The poor little guy has been teething horribly and just crying and crying but with periods of calm and happy in between.
Babies can be tough. Teething is the worst. Poor guy.
Thank you. He's the sweetest little guy ever too.
Originally Posted by Newborn
They'd go on family vacations multiple times per year: Italy, parts of the US, skiing, etc. I wasn't invited for about 6 years of this, including while we were engaged; it wasn't until we were married for a few years that I was invited.
For 6 years they went on family vacations - even while you were engaged - and didn't invite you? This is a major red flag. Lessons learned for the next relationship. Don't ever allow yourself to be treated as an outsider with someone you're committed to again.
Correct. And I agree - stbx used to get upset when I'd get upset about it; "that's not how my family works". I still remember how upset he was when I wasn't super excited to talk to him after he returned from Europe (we were engaged and he was living at my family's house at the time).
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I felt like I should call him back to apologize.
But then it's like - no, his mom was toxic, but he never had told me.
Good you thought better of it - no need to reach out for something like that.
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I wish I could just be indifferent as he seems to be toward me.
You'll get there. It takes time. You're doing well. Continue to focus on yourself and the baby.
