I don’t know why you persist with this woman.[/quote]
Originally Posted by PeterB
I don't know either. I think I have to take on a counselor.
Peter wha you are doing is normal. You married your W for a reason. You started a family for a reason. It is normal not to want to lose what you had. I am guessing at one point your W was a good partner? My guess is you are hoping that someday she could be that partner again? This can happen again but unfortunately it takes way longer than people want and can handle. Right now your W is not happy and is 100% convinced that you are standing in the way of her happiness. She has to figure it out for herself whether that is true or not. The best way to help that along is to give her as much time and space as you possibly can. You can never give too much space in these situations.
Originally Posted by PeterB
I certainly do. I am mentally preparing to live without her in my life but I don't know if I will find someone else. I will be really scared to commit after what I went through.
This will change down the road. Lot's of really good faithful women out there. The key is to become great on your own first.
Originally Posted by PeterB
You did awesome. Right now she is an angry, off the rails woman and otoh I am feeling great about myself. I have not got into a fight or showed any anger/annoyance at her in the last 4 months so my efforts at personal improvement are fruitful. I sometimes feel that piecing with her (if it comes to that) would be a huge mistake.
Maybe and maybe not. It depends on her attitude and her motivation for piecing.
Originally Posted by PeterB
I already told her that because of the way the previous discussion went I will be unable to discuss our R with her anymore. It did not go down well but I ignored.
No more talking and more GAL. Peter I like you but I get the sense you can come off as controlling and condescending at times.
Originally Posted by PeterB
I honestly think you’re worth so much more than either you or her realise.
Agreed in unfortunately in these situations she is probably going to have to learn that the hard way.
