Need advice: wife of 10 years wants out (3)

[PeterB]

you are just an option for me

I don’t know why you persist with this woman.

I don't know either. I think I have to take on a counselor.

Don’t you deserve an amazing, committed and trustworthy partner?

I certainly do. I am mentally preparing to live without her in my life but I don't know if I will find someone else. I will be really scared to commit after what I went through.

When my ex got dumped by her AP and started being nice, I’d already realised what a good person I was and that I deserved much more than what a cheating, lazy, angry woman could ever offer. I ignored her and kept living my own awesome life.

You did awesome. Right now she is an angry, off the rails woman and otoh I am feeling great about myself. I have not got into a fight or showed any anger/annoyance at her in the last 4 months so my efforts at personal improvement are fruitful. I sometimes feel that piecing with her (if it comes to that) would be a huge mistake.

Don’t dip your toe in to test the waters, don’t entertain her angry outbursts, or have any discussions at all.

I already told her that because of the way the previous discussion went I will be unable to discuss our R with her anymore. It did not go down well but I ignored.

I honestly think you’re worth so much more than either you or her realise.

Thanks for your kind words.