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[BL42]

Ginger1,

BL, I knew for a fact he did not have a wife back home. I knew for a fact he was out of the house. I knew for a fact there were lawyers involved . That was fact.

I'm sure you did your due diligence and vetted the situation, and I'm not saying you were acting like a sleazy AP - just that DnJ's question about the DB'ing spouse and still being legally married isn't exactly out of bounds for a forum like this. It seemed like a fair question to raise, even if you have a reasonable answer.

I knew , and of course I can’t say for fact that that he found her sex videos with other men.

Yikes.

And I can tell you, if I did find out they were living together and they weren’t getting divorced, I would have been very very gone.

I don't doubt it.

Im not chiming in there or anywhere else anymore. I am no longer helpful and that’s where I bow out .

Sorry to hear that. You're always welcome on my thread - I'd love your perspective. If not, best of luck...and don't forget to take action on the child support front. Hold your ExH accountable for his financial responsibilities as a father while you're doing the majority of the parenting for your daughter!