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I don't like the bickering either. Threads filled up with that as opposed to helpful advice to those who created them are not helpful. I've largely tried to stay out of it and focus on my own sitch and helping others, but I'll say this...

I'm surprised to see LH and Ginger who used to seem teasing and flirty have turned more bickering & personal...in OB's thread and hers. Not sure why.

Ginger your posts to DnJ initially did come off to me as very harsh and too personal, but also think you raised some very fair questions to him about self reflection and his role in his marriage. On the other hand, while you may have found DnJ's post on your thread condescending and judgmental, I don't think he was out of bounds raising the question of you dating a man who was not yet divorced. It's fair to wonder if he had a W back home hoping to DB her marriage - that's why we all came here - plus it caused you personal pain when the relationship didn't work out.

I just noticed DnJ's two dozen plus threads are gone. It appears he may have bowed out of the forum. Imo, that's a shame. Just as it would be if you do so as well Ginger...or anyone else. The more people here helping others the better, imo.

There is an alternative approach. There are still people out there who need help. Does everyone remember back to the initial darkness and spin of post-BD? What it was like reaching out to any support system which would listen, desperately trying to understand what happened and needing advice on how to get your life together? Why not drop a note to those currently in it, if only to give a quick message of support.

Here are two newbies, Samoy who hasn't gotten much response in hers and Rockon who just posted his first message tonight:

HELP! Late withdrawal help clarification by Samoy
New Here by Rockon

Why doesn't everyone who reads this comment show them some support, even if it's just taking two minutes to post a quick "hang in there, you'll get through this"?