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[LH19]

Today my D turned 15 years old. I cannot believe that she is 15 .

Happy belated birthday to little G

Her dad and I were supposed to take her to dinner tonight, but instead he brought dinner to us and we hung out, ate, played cards, and had cake. I know certain people want to make fun of me for doing this . But it’s her birthday, it makes her happy and I’m fine with it.

I think everyone should strive for this relationship with their ex. For some people it is too soon. You have had 14 years I would be shocked if you weren't in this place.

I was thinking about a back and forth on another posters thread about how there is a “wrong” way and a “right” way to date. I don’t think that’s true.

I agree. Do what works. If something isn't working change it up.

And just because I am single doesn’t mean I’m “wrong” honestly, I don’t think I am doing anything wrong.

Well establishing rules and breaking these rules that were established for a reason I would categorize as "wrong". No?

For a few years now I went on a lot of first and second dates that went no where. Just dating. No chance to even “mess” things up. These people weren’t for me, and I wasn’t for them.

Yep. These while frustrating are good practice.

I called myself “exclusive” after a few dates with someone. Big deal. I didn’t date anyone else at the same time.

Nothing wrong with exclusivity. Why label it? Why not slowly just get to know someone?

For some people, they can focus on a bunch of people. Other people can’t and it clouds their feelings. All of us are different and none of us are wrong.

I agree.

Some of us are just mean.

Yep I would think DNJ would agree with you.

I am single. I am single not because I’m bad at dating or violating “rules” I am single because I haven’t found my match.

I agree with you. Your rules violations just bring you more pain.

I will likely be single for at least the next few years or even perhaps forever. But in my heart I know it’s not because I’m defective. I’m great just as I am. Always room to improve but I am really happy with who I am, how I treat others , and I am getting better at treating myself the way I truly deserve

Forever seems like a mighty long time.