Bottom line...don't take the EA light and think you're in the clear because "at least it might not be a PA".
Absolutely. For a woman, EA is the [censored]. PA might happen later but a woman's EA is far more damaging than a man's PA because men come back after PA. Otoh women do not tend to come back to someone they have emotionally disinvested (final act of disinvestment being the EA). Eventually, if a woman's EA is followed by PA then it is like a death knell to the MR as it destroys commitment (to reconciliation) from both sides.
