Thanks, BL42. I think my biggest struggle at this point is the pendulum swinging back and forth between "Why do I want to work things out with a cheater?" and "I can forgive and move on and we have a history and children."
I do recall telling my IC that if W snapped out of this MLC bullshyt (and I felt satisfied that there was nothing going on with anyone else), I actually felt it could have been an overall positive thing for the MR evolving.
