Need advice: wife of 10 years wants out (3)

[Ready2Change]

Can you explain what is a 'truth dart' and 'reverse babble'? The statement - "I understand the lack of trust" sounds like validation, which is something I am already doing.

Reverse babble uses their words in your response.
Truth darts are short responses that clarify your version of the truth.

I did a little digging trying to find coaches original posts, but they are now well over 10 years old and may have been purged. A few examples:
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2842981#Post2842981

Reverse Babble Pattern (Coach)
"I can't trust you" respond "I understand the lack of trust."
"I was ready to come back until this happened" respond "I can see how me knowing what I know would change your plans."
Other wise responses:
"You made me do it" respond "No, I don't control your actions this is your mess."
"We are just friends" respond "Please don't take me for a fool, we both know better."
"You are running around" Respond "No wife, I am actually very focused and another woman is the last thing I want now."
When in doubt say nothing or "I am thinking about what you said."