Was thinking back over my (long) dating history (because I'm in my 60's, remember). And thinking about the things I have, and have not had, in a partner.
CMM was probably the only partner who did as much for me as I did for him. (My college boyfriend certainly loved me as much as I did him, but wasn't so good at doing things for me). I often was in relationships where either I was the pursuer, or just the one that was giving more than the other. My exH fooled me by pursuing me in the beginning, but the dynamics of the relationship changed once he "had" me.
Many partners have been as smart or smarter than I am.
None have been as funny as I am (which is odd, because I love a funny guy).
I'm not sure any of them have been as happy or optimistic.
Not sure if finding a funny, happy and optimistic single guy in my age range who is smart and sexy is even a realistic goal. (Grumpy old men abound). But maybe worth paying attention to my pursuer/rescuer tendencies in the future.
