Update: I have a strong feeling that she got dumped by OM when she traveled. Some of her behavior soon after she came back is consistent with distress related to the rejection. She is also making some overtures with me and said she wants to talk. She has not stopped being nasty so I told her I can only talk if I feel she is ready to have a reasonable and respectful conversation. She went ballistic. I also don't trust her because I feel she is probably considering this only because she got dumped.
She probably wants to explore piecing but I don't trust her. She has not told me that directly. Would really appreciate any suggestions and advice. Any resources on DB about piecing, like preconditions, if I should even accept, what to look out for if I suspect she is considering piecing etc?
Peter I would suggest you double down on GAL right now.
If you engage in a relationship with her again it should only be under the conditions that:
1) She sees you as someone of extremely high value 2) She views a relationship with you as something much better than a life with someone else or a life alone 3) She's willing to work to win you
Without those three things, she's going to walk again down the line, because she really doesn't have the motivation to work with you to change anything, your relationship will keep seeking the same equilibrium it has had because of how your personalities and issues come together.
