You know, I have been doing some reading today and there is a theme I have come across often. Just because you may not be in love with yourself, doesn’t mean you can’t be loved or find love. I’m not in love with myself. I’m ok with myself. I’m at peace with myself in my utter non-perfection . I’ll always have my “damage” which comes from childhood, my joke of a marriage and my dating experiences beyond. But they don’t determine how I feel about who I am. They don’t define me.
I'm still not buying it G....
I think they are some great excuses for not facing yourself....
Yet, in the end, I think they are excuses....
Originally Posted by Ginger1
And Mach, I was thinking, re: validation. I seek it and crave it on my big life decisions . It’s true. I’m afraid to fail and hear a big “ I told you so” . Validation from men is something I don’t need. I don’t want it. I couldn’t give a flying F about it actually. Maybe that’s what makes me seem closed off.
This ??
I almost agree with...
If I were to say that validation closely follows approval..
What would you say then ??
You said the other day that you could see right through another poster...
And I am telling you, that after reading you for almost 15 years now....
I can see your behavioral patterns, and I know where you seek that validation/approval...
And that you DO give a flying F about it, and that is what makes you seem closed off...
By running from it, anytime it gets too close to you..
And I see how that bleeds over into other areas of your life....
