I know this forum talks about Narcassists making up 4% of the population, but I dunno if that includes the whole spectrum.
Upto 5% is a common estimate of people with NPD, whether overt or covert.
Originally Posted by tt180
I still think people on this forum deal with them in a higher proportion by virtue that a relationship with a narc isn't possible.
I'd buy that--so, maybe upto 7.5% of WAS.
Originally Posted by tt180
If my nex is not a narc, then let's call it a personality disorder, it doesn't matter the label, she has no ability to love, little empathy, and solely focused on her above everyone else.
Originally Posted by "What Is A Covert Narcissist"
Researcher and author Craig Malkin, PhD, suggests that the term "covert" can be misleading. In the field of psychology, behavior can be described as overt or covert. Covert narcissists are only different from overt (more obvious) narcissists in that they tend to be more introverted. Both overt and covert narcissists need to meet the same clinical criteria to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, whether they are extroverted or introverted.
Maybe your ex is the exception and a narcissist. I don't know. What I can say is your legal strategy doesn't seem to align. If I recall correctly, you gave up 50/50 custody of your littlest one because you thought it was better for her to be with her mom than you. That's nonsensical if your ex only loves herself and has a significant behavioral disorder like NPD. NPD parenting isn't pretty. The people I know with NPD ex's fought for as much custody as they could get and usually won.
Originally Posted by tt180
My change in dynamic is grey rock. I avoid the arguments and battles the best I can, usually with comments like "you know that's not true"
That doesn't sound like grey rock.
If she does love her kids and just not you--poof! There goes the behavior disorder and it's more typical "conflicted" parenting with many sites to help, e.g. I Googled "AUSTRALIA HOW TO RESOLVE CONFLICT WITH YOUR CO-PARENT". The more you can do to improve your side of the interactions, the better for the kids. For a cautionary tale, see Wolfman's thread.
